T. Rowe’s Wash-N-Go Method!

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T. Rowe’s Wash-N-Go Method!

As a natural of three years, it seems to me that there are two categories of people when it comes to the famous wash-n-go. Those who love them, and those who hate them. The wash-n-go hairstyle can be very tricky to achieve, and often times, is more work than its name implies. I used to HATE wash-n-gos and I was an avid supporter of YouTube Naturalista GlamFun ‘s “Wash-N-Gos don’t work on Nappy Hair” video! (It’s a parody music video of Drake’s “Started from The Bottom and its hilarious! If you haven’t seen it, click this link to watch!

After a couple years of playing with different products, and learning my hair, I can now say I am a fan of the style! I’ll let you guys in on a few of my favorite products and styling hacks that I use to achieve my best wash-n-go!

1) Before I start my wash-n-go, I make sure my hair is thoroughly conditioned and detangled. I usually detangle in the shower with a wide tooth comb, while my conditioner is still in my hair. Detangled hair is VERY imporant!

2) After rinsing, I apply my leave in conditioner. I am currently using Aphogee Pro Vitamin Leave-In Conditioner. This helps to smooth the hair for better manageability. It also contains a balanced pH which seals the hair cuticle and enhances the color of my hair.

3) After applying my leave-in, I spray a mix of aloe vera juice and water over my hair. I get my aloe vera juice by the gallon from Walgreens. Aloe vera contains enzymes that promote hair growth. There are also enzymes found in aloe vera that eliminate dead scalp cells. Your hair will thank you for this one!

4) Before I add my Eco-Styler gel, I base my hair with aloe vera gel! I buy the Jason Soothing Aloe Vera Gel from Whole Foods. Slathering this gel on my hair first, helps with retaining moisture so my hair will not dry out and frizz too quickly. I am pretty liberal when it comes to applying aloe vera gel! (Sidenote: When money is tight, and I can’t afford fancy aloe vera gel from Whole Foods, I have purchased regular Banana Boat aloe vera gel from Wal-Mart, and it did the trick as well! I just like to stay away from products with too many extra additives, and stick to oganic & natural!)

5) Lastyly, I apply my Eco Styler gel for the finishing touch! My favorite Eco Styler gel is the Moroccan Argan Oil Gel, and I use it by the BOATLOAD!

Once I’ve applied all of my products, and tousled my hair, I am ready to go! My curl definition is always on point, and my frizz stays to a minimum for the whole day! Once you get into the swing of things, wash-n-gos will become easier and faster!

Check out this pic-collage of previous wash-n-gos I have rocked using my method!

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I also tried my method on my niece’s hair! It was adorable!

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Give it a try and let me know what you think! Happy Washing!!

T.Rowe xoxo

Henna Me Happy!!

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Henna Me Happy!!

Today I decided to experiment with Rainbow Henna “Persian Blonde” Hair Color and Conditioner. For those of you who do don’t know about henna, I will give a quick lesson quoting directly from the Rainbow henna packaging!

“Henna is an alternative to chemical hair colorings that are controversial to health considerations. Henna comes from small shrubs, called Lawsonia, that are native to the Middle East, West Asia, and North Africa. The leaves are dried and then pulverized to a fine powder.”

                                                                                    -Rainbow Henna

Henna is 100% organic and a lot of naturals I have followed throughout the years do not necessarily use it for its coloring effects, but for the deep conditioning treatment it provides. Henna works great as a conditioner because it smoothes the hair’s cuticle and gives the hair a shiny and polished look. Henna also helps with the thickening of the hair and helps limit hair breakage and splitting.

Below is a picture I found on the CurlytoKinky website to describe the long term effects of using Henna:

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http://curly2kinky.com/hair-care/henna/
In the diagram above;

‘Hair with No Henna’ – represents curl pattern and length of hair pre henna application, the blue dots represent the moisture level of the hair.

‘Hair Immediately After Henna Application’ – represents the curl pattern, length and thickness of hair immediately after the henna application. Notice the blue dots are more, due to the initial entrapment of water in the hair follicle by the henna. All this adds to the weight of the hair, giving the initial feeling of heaviness, and length to the hair.

‘Hair a Few Days After Henna Application’ – represents the hair a few days after the henna has been applied, hair has shrunk in length and curl pattern, but not quite to it’s old structure. Notice also the reduction of blue dots back to the moisture level pre-henna.

‘Hair After Repeated Use of Henna’ – Here not only is the hair thicker, due to numerous coatings of henna, but much heavier therefore the curl pattern is opened even further – for those with very tight curls more defined and there will be more noticeable length in the hair. But notice the reduction in blue water dots, this is because the henna coating  also stops penetration of water into the structure of the hair. Hence why some people find this practice later leads to dry hair.

 

Now let’s get down to the nitty gritty! I went ahead and got all of my supplies to get started!

Step 0

I boiled one cup of water and steeped 3 green tea bags in the hot water. (I used green tea because it stimulates hair growth and softens the hair. Green tea also contains Vitamins E and C which promotes glossy, radiant hair.) While the tea was getting ready, I poured 1 cup of my Henna mixture into a glass bowl. I slowly began to pour my green tea into the henna, and stirred with a spoon. I continued to pour and stir until all of my water was poured into the bowl. The henna mixture was very thick, and I stirred until all clumps were gone, and the mixture had a cake batter consistency.

I then added 1 cup of cheapo conditioner to my mixture. I used “Herbal Essence- Hello Hydration Moisturizing Conditioner.” I then stirred this all together and let it set, while I washed my hair.

Step 1

I washed my hair with “As I Am- Coconut CoWash Cleansing Conditioner” and de-tangled with the product in my hair before rinsing. After, I dried my hair with a t-shirt and squeezed as much water out as I could before prepping for my henna.

Step 2

I then parted my hair into 3 sections. For those of you that don’t know, I am still growing my hair out from a tapered cut, so the back and sides are still substantially shorter than the rest of my hair. This is why I part my hair into 3 sections instead of the traditional 4 sections.

Step 4

After my hair was separated into sections, I went through each section and parted my hair, and distributed the henna mixture evenly from root to tip. Once my whole head was covered and all of my strands were covered, I took whatever remaining mix there was, and massaged it into my hair and used my fingers to rake the product through all of my strands.

Step 5

Lastly, I covered my hair with a plastic cap and did some cleaning around the house for a couple of hours, while the henna did its thing! You can use a hair dryer with henna, but I chose to use a plastic cap and leave it on longer so I could get some things done on my day off! 🙂

When it was time to rinse the henna, I removed my cap and put my hair under warm flowing water. The henna felt very gritty and thick. My hair was very heavy. It took a lot longer to rinse the henna than I anticipated, and it almost felt like someone had dumped a bucket of sand on my head! I tried my best to not put my hands in my hair, to limit manipulation and tangles. After several minutes under the running water, all of the henna was rinsed from my hair. I then applied my regular conditioner, and let that set for a couple of minutes before rinsing.

Results:

I noticed my hair felt thicker and heavier compared to how it felt when I originally washed it before applying the mixture. My curls were not noticeably loosened due to the henna treatment, but most sources state that it takes multiple applications before that begins to happen. Over the next few days, I noticed a lot less shedding when I would de-tangle my hair. My curls have also looked more hydrated and defined.

All in all, I feel that henna is a great conditioning treatment. I will definitely try a few more applications to get a full understanding of the long term benefits henna has to offer! I will definitely keep you guys in the loop with pics and posts!

As always natural sisters….stay bold, stay classy, stay patient, and most important, stay NATURAL!

Much Love,

T. Rowe ❤

5 Natural Hair Rules T.Rowe Can’t Live Without!

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A lot of naturals approach me and ask me what I do to my hair, what products I use, and how I achieve certain hair styles. I have decided to hit the blog and let you guys in on my top 5 hair rules! Annnd, I will include a list of all the products I use for my hair on a regular basis. Enjoy ladies!

1)    Moisturize, Moisturize, Moisturize!! Water is SOOOO important for our hair and so many naturals don’t realize that simply moisturizing your hair daily can be the start of something BEAUTIFUL! In the beginning I was terrible about moisturizing my hair because I didn’t always want my hair wet, or have time to style it. I thought I could pull off that 2nd day, 3rd day hair nonsense and I LIED! That doesn’t work for my hair, so my styles usually only last one day. Since this is the case, I have no problem moisturizing on the regular! My spray bottle contains water & Giovanni Direct Leave-In Weightless Moisture Conditioner. Spray, Spray, Spray!

(Another Tip) I read up on Aloe Vera juice and gel for hair, and it does wonders for adding extra moisture after shampooing and conditioning! It is also good for a pre-moisturizer before wash-n-go’s! Apparently it works well with the gel! Also, DEEP condition! Deep conditioning provides extra nourishment and moisture for the hair! It’s IMPORTANT! Try to do so at least once every 2 weeks!

2)    Choose styles that work for you. When my hair finally got long enough to do decent twist-outs, I was always doing plain-Jane twist-outs. I would always have gaps, thin spots, and lifeless ends. I hated the way my twist-outs were looking. Then…I discovered FLAT Twists! This was my ride or die go-to style errrday! Ya’ll hear me?! I loved the volume, there were no gaps or thin spots, and the definition was great depending on how big or small I made the flat twists. BUT…the ends were still not curling how I wanted them to….so I started adding perm rods to the ends of my twist and BAM! Perfection! You just have to play around with your hair and find what works for you. I know naturals that prefer braid-outs over twist-outs, and vice versa. Experiment with ALL types of styles until you find what you love…then ROCK IT FIERCELY!

3)   Always have a “Go-To” style! Now, I’m no stranger to waking up in the morning looking like Chief Keef and not knowing what the heck I’m going to do with my hair! There have been days I am running late for work, or my girls pop up on me and want to do SHENANIGANS so I have to do something with my hair and FAST! Other days I’m just sitting in the mirror contemplating Amber Rose’ing this ish because I have totally given up on ever having a good hair day again! Sometimes I even sacrifice going to bed sexy and go to sleep on my ASAP Rocky tip (hair twisted and ready to go!) and when I wake up, I have the twist-out results from HELL! On these days you need a go-to style that you know you can ALWAYS rock and look good. Mine happens to be a sleek puff! I can beat my face and get some edge control on them front hairs and when I get that big’ol puff whipped into shape can’t nobody tell me NOTHIN hunny! Find a style that is quick, easy, and cute for you. This will eliminate stress on bad hair days. There is nothing worse than re-considering going natural every day of your life when your hair doesn’t want to co-operate. Having a go-to style has been a lifesaver!

4)    Know your hair! Always do as much research as you possibly can to find out what kind of hair you have and what works best for you. Know what porosity hair you have, what curl pattern you have, and what products work for you. Know if your hair detangles better soaking wet or damp. Know what products your hair loves, and what products it hates! Know when your hair is not acting right or being itself! Learning your hair is the best way to keep it healthy.  A little research ain’t never hurt nobody! Look at what other naturals say works for their hair, and for the love of sweet baby Jesus, when you You-Tube hair tutorials, look at girls that have HAIR LIKE YOU! Ain’t nothing worse than a 4c natural looking at hair tutorials from a 3a natural and wondering why their curls don’t look like hers! Be REALISTIC LADIES!

5)   Lastly, protect your hair! Wear a bonnet to bed! Use a satin/silk pillow case, heck…do both! EMBRACE PROTECTIVE STYLING! Even if you can’t get braids or sew-ins, a simple bun is still a protective style. Guarding the ends of your hair is the main goal. Even twist-outs and braid-outs are protective styles if worn for days or pinned up to reduce touching, combing, and hair breakage and shedding.

Following these simple rules and establishing a sure fire hair regimen is the key to growth and bangin hair! Embrace your locks, work what God gave you, and KILL THE GAME my natural sisters! Love you all!

****BONUS****T.ROWE’S HAIR PICKS****

Fav Conditioner: Tresseme Naturals & Herbal Essence Hello Hydration (these provide GREAT moisture and slip[!)

Fav Leave-In-: Giovanni Direct Leave-In Weightless Moisture Conditioner

Fav Moisturizing Cream- Cantu Shea Butter Leave In Conditioning Repair Cream

Fav Deep Conditioner: Good ol’ Coconut Oil! Or Aubrey Organics GPB Deep Conditioner!

What are your favs? Let me know! Leave comments and questions below! Show me love folks!

Peace out,

T-Rowe xoxo

Two Years In The Game! Happy Nappiversary To Me!!

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“The only regret I have with going natural, is that I didn’t do it sooner…”

Checking the calendar to do some planning ahead, I scrolled to November, and realized I am approaching my two year natural hair journey! I cannot believe it’s been a whole two years since I cut my hair off. I still remember that day like it was yesterday. I almost didn’t go to my appointment, and when I did, I thought SEVERAL times about backing out. I wasn’t ready to look like “a little boy” or a “bald headed chick.” These were both negative views I had carried about other girls that did a big chop and now it was going to be my turn to face the same scrutiny. Everyone would tell me that a girl who cuts all of her hair off would have to posses some pretty high self esteem and the confidence to “rock” a TWA (teeny weenie afro). I had neither. My hair had always been a sensitive spot for me, so I was definitely lacking confidence in the tresses that were already growing from my abused scalp. My scalp and I had been through many rough times. From scalp infections, to scalp burns from relaxers that were left on too long, to color that had irritated my scalp and caused scabs, bumps, and most devastating, hair loss. For me, going natural was about more than my hair. Going natural was my farewell to unhealthy practices, for my scalp, hair, and body.  I closed my eyes, she picked up the scissors, and when I looked up…I had a TWA. When I looked in the mirror I wanted to cry, but I forced a smile, then something amazing happened. The more I forced that smile, the more I looked at my little afro, the more I thought about the irreversible decision I’d just made, the more my smile began to widen…it was no longer counterfeit, it was genuine.

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I was surprised that going natural changed my mind set on so many things beyond my hair. A lot of “natural girls” transition to using all natural, organic, sulfate free, paraben free (and many more) products to get the healthiest hair possible. But why stop at healthy hair? I now craved healthy skin. I wanted a healthy body. All of these things tied together to create a whole new me, and I loved who I was becoming.  

Now, I can’t lie, the first few months of my natural hair journey were very difficult. I had NO idea what to do what that tiny little fro. I’ll also make a confession that I don’t particularly like to speak of. In my mind, before I did my big cop I had what I like to call “false hair expectations.” This simply means I wasn’t excepting of the texture of my hair. I thought I was going to have silky Spanish wave curls  and my hair was going to look so cute if I just wet it and threw a little gel in it. (Hey! I can dream can’t I? I mean I figured I’d have a little since I’m half, but that just does NOT cut it these days. Lol) Instead I had very thick, course hair that was far from manageable. I had to erase those hair expectations and learn to work with what I had, and learn to make it beautiful.  I encounter girls with these false expectations ALL of the time, and it is easy for me to relate to them, because I was once there. Accepting your hair texture, whether it be 3B, 3C, 4B, or 4C is the most important thing you can do.

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 This way you can research products that work well with your specific hair type, You-Tube tutorials of girls with hair like yours, and even pictures of styles that look good on your hair type. Believe me, black hair comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, lengths, and thickness. Finding a hair care routine that works for your specific hair is ideal. It took me a while to get the hang of things, but by about 6 months in the game, I was beginning to feel like a pro. 🙂

Over my two years being natural, I have learned SO many things about my hair and how to take care of it. I’ve tried so many hairstyles. Some that didn’t turn out so great, and some that turned out beautiful. I’ve tried styles that my hair wasn’t long enough to do, then a few month later I would try them again, and they would work! One of the most exciting parts of my hair journey was my hair growth. I would start complaining and saying my hair wasn’t growing, and at one time I was certain my hair was getting shorter and shorter, then all of a sudden I’d have a great twist out that looked so much longer than a previous one, or I’d flat iron my hair and see great length compared to a previous flat iron session. Hair growth does take time, and I had to learn to be patient because my hair wasn’t going to be down my back over night. Setting realistic hair goals for myself was very important for me.

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In these past two years I’ve fussed, frowned, cried, cursed, taken scissors to knots and tangles out of rage, woken up with matted hair, spent more time looking like Chief Keef  & A$AP Rocky  than I’d care to admit, missed events because of hair disasters, and contemplated going back to to the creamy crack!

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But, I wouldn’t trade this journey for anything in the world. I tell everyone I talk about my hair with that this is one of the best decisions I have ever made in my LIFE. I am excited to say I have made it two years and I am excited to see what this hair journey has in store.

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To all my natural sisters….stay bold, stay classy, stay patient, and most important, stay NATURAL. ❤

 

Love you all,

T. Rowe

Confessions Of A Serial Lover

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“Where there is love, there is life.”

                             -Mahatma Gandhi

I remember the first time I saw you. You were so beautiful. I’m not even sure if I’m supposed to call you beautiful, but the words handsome or good looking seem to only capture your physical traits. What caught my attention was your soul. I felt at that very moment, that I could see right through you. For a second, the world went silent, and all I could hear were our two heartbeats, in sync. Most people only dream of feeling that type of connection with someone, but me, I’m no stranger to these extraordinary emotions.  To me, this was an ordinary routine. I’d felt these emotions numerous times. I’ve been in love…a lot.  My practice of using the term “love” loosely has brought me much condemnation.  What can I say; I’m a hopeless romantic, with much emphasis on the hopeless part.  I love people and often times they don’t even know it.

Is there something wrong with a girl who’s been in love multiple times? Always infatuated with the idea of new emotions with new people? What cure is there for a girl who constantly suffers from a broken heart when love doesn’t last? What is to be done with a girl forever sick with love? What do you call her? I’ve foolishly bragged that I’ve never had a broken bone in my life. What I wouldn’t give to trade in a broken heart for a broken bone. I can put a cast on a broken bone, go to therapy to make it stronger, but a broken heart heals in its own time. There is no science or medicine for this kind of ailment. Maybe I need an intervention, rehabilitation, or some sort of distraction to deliver me from my sickness. Or maybe I’m not sick at all; perhaps it’s the rest of the world that is crazy. Maybe I’ll give myself the title of Dr. and hand out my own amateur diagnosis’s to those who have never felt what I feel.   

Being crowned a “hopeless romantic” isn’t the most eminent title I’ve worn, but I can’t pretend these bouts of sickness didn’t benefit my life in some shape form or fashion.  I can’t pretend that YOU, my most current interest don’t benefit my life. While I’ve been busy loving you, you’ve become my silent encourager; you make me want to try new things. You’ve watched me suffer and endure all types of hell, and you didn’t even know it. But you were the reason I stayed sane. You are my muse. My passions change as our relationship changes.  At times when I can’t get you off my mind; I write and write for days on end. Late nights in my bed, I just write until my hands are numb. Sometimes you make me an angry writer, other times, you make me a sultry writer, and lately, you’ve made me an honest writer.  You’ve made me an honest person.

 I’ve got to take advantage of all the inspiration you give to me, because I’m afraid I don’t know when you’ll be just a memory and I’ll be busy loving someone new. Trying to live in the moment is difficult when I’ve already had a premonition of our ultimate demise.  Even still, I pray that this time is the last time. I want to be in love with you, and only you. I want to break this curse.

You’ve got me feeling like it’s alright to live in a world full of oxymoron’s because I am now a firm believer in this fictional reality I’ve created for myself. I’m absolutely unsure how I’m going to keep your attention, or how you’ll keep mine, but I’ll remain anxiously patient in the meantime. We’ll figure it out.  I’m almost always plotting ways to run into you, just so I can see your smile. My emotions take over and I become a blameless culprit, following the orders my heart gives me and disregarding all other contribution. Yea, I’ll admit, I’m a fine mess, and I am not perfect but I’m worth it. I just wish you’d see my value. Until then I’ll remain a cheerful pessimist, hoping for the best but preparing my heart for the worst. That’s how my love works. And you, you’re so unaware.

 I’ve often considered making room for you in not only my heart, but in my soul. The very dwelling place of my savior was opened up to you, my inspiration, and my uninformed lover. Let’s face it; I’m terrible at not loving people. Even when loving brings me heartache, I’ll never abandon the sensation. I thrive off of it. Label me an emotional junkie, a love masochist, a collector of emotional attachments, a benefactor of intense affection. I’ll never relinquish the idea of love, even when I’m picking up the pieces of a broken heart once again. I’ll try my best to mend love’s wounds with my tears because expertise has proven that the potion my eyes create has nothing short of a healing power.  

I’m a serial lover, and I’m okay with it. One day I’ll get help..

I’ve been praying for a man…

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I’ve been praying for a man who doesn’t live for this world, but lives for God

I’ve been praying for a man that will first kiss my forehead in adoration before he rushes to kiss my lips 

I’ve been praying for a man who seeks to understand the insides of my mind before he seeks to feel the insides of my body

I’ve been praying for a man that doesn’t want my body for just one night, but for the rest of our lives

I’ve been praying for a man that doesn’t want me to get down on my knees unless we’re praying with each other

I’ve been praying for a man who isn’t thirsty for attention, but hungry for success

I’ve been praying for a man who will listen close to learn my heartbeat and not listen to rumors and naysayers

I’ve been praying for a man who will grab me only to keep me from falling, and never out of anger

I’ve been praying for a man that won’t fight with me, but will fight for me

I’ve been praying for a man who still believes chivalry is alive and well

I’ve been praying for a man who walks on the side of the road closest to traffic because his daddy taught him that

I’ve been praying for a man that opens doors because he knows his momma was a queen and what was good for her is good for his woman

I’ve been praying for a man that wants to be aroused more than sexually, a man that allows his mind to be aroused with stimulating conversation

I’ve been praying for a man that will never fall to his knees out of weakness, but will fall to his knees in order to propose to the love of his life

 I’ve been praying for a man who doesn’t have to stare at multiple women because he’s already stared into my soul and caught a glimpse of a future that far surpasses the temptation of wandering eyes

I’ve been praying for a man who loves on purpose, and doesn’t play games with a woman’s heart

I’ve been praying for a man that understands wholeheartedly that he was created perfectly for the woman who prayed every night for him

I’ve been praying for a man….and not just any man….

T.Rowe ❤

24 Things T.Rowe Has Learned In 24 years.

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  1. You REALLY can do bad all by yourself. It doesn’t make sense to have a miserable life just to be able to say you have someone.
  2. Don’t burn bridges unless you are certain that you’ll NEVER have to cross them again.
  3. If a man can talk about making a baby with you, but can’t part his lips to say KAY Jewelers or ZALES….RUNNNNN Girl RUNNNNN!
  4. “Don’t fear the enemy that attacks you, but the fake friend that hugs you.”
  5. Having a grudge against someone you’ve never met just because your friend doesn’t like them is childish. You’re only limiting yourself and bringing about extra drama.
  6. Guys will HATE your natural hair when you have a low fade or small fro, but when it’s long they WILL want to touch it. If they were hating in the beginning, HIT EM WITH THAT HEISMAN and don’t let them touch!
  7. “Promise rings are jokes. If you want to make a promise to T.Rowe, buy me a promise car…hell, a promise house! That will insure you stay around.
  8. Rescue a guy from the friend zone every once in a while. Sometimes we prematurely place guys into the friend zone and hey, if they hang out with you all of the time, know all of your flaws and have seen you at your worst and STILL stick around, they may be more than friend material.
  9. REJECTION is a humbling experience! If you have never been rejected, brace yourselves. It’s not pretty…but it builds character.
  10. Confess your sins to God and GOD only! What you do is nobody else’s business. –(My mother’s wisdom)<3
  11. Make time for family! Visit your parents. If you can’t visit, Skype or call. You’ll regret not making the effort if anything ever happens to them.  
  12. Share your testimony whenever you can! It’s not bragging…you never know who’s going through the same thing as you. You’re blessing may be fuel to their fire.
  13. If you’re serious about your church life, you won’t do ANYTHING on a Saturday night that would hinder you from making it to church on Sunday Morning. The club does NOT get you through a rough week, but that good message from the Lord will! (It took me a while to learn this one, but I’m glad I finally got my priorities straight!)
  14. Minding your own business is a LIBERATING experience! Do it often!
  15. Be mindful that your dreams are not meant to be shared with everybody. People can know your dreams and deepest desires, and secretly do everything in their power to keep them from happening.
  16. Being ride or die doesn’t kick in until there is a ring on a finger. Too many females are willing to “ride” for a man that hasn’t even let them in the car yet.
  17. “Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace is counted wise; and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.”
  18. You may not always be able to change people’s image of you, but you can always change your image of yourself. You’re opinion is the one that really matters anyway right? Give yourself as many SECOND CHANCES as you need.
  19. If a man is not interested in what your goals and dreams are, chances are he’s not trying to make you his wife. Even worse, men that steer clear of those topics probably have no goals and dreams of their own.
  20. Watch for people that are apart of EVERYBODY’S clique. Those types of people usually have limited loyalties and are quick to gossip.
  21. That was then…this is now. People change. Give them a chance to show you they have. FORGIVE! Even when you don’t want to.
  22. For some people…it’s all about the CHASE. Once the thrill is gone, so are they. Beware of thrill seekers and don’t make the catch so easy. (My dad’s wisdom) ❤
  23. BULLYING IS WRONG. If you associate with people that bully others, or laugh at people being bullied keep in mind that karma loves those who are guilty by association just the same.
  24. True trials and tribulation will teach you how to really praise! True heartache will make you unafraid to shout! Praise God in the midst of EVERY struggle.

Thank you all for reading! I love you always!

T.Rowe

6 Things You Can Do To Drive Your Man Insane! T.Rowe Petty Style!

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Ladies, have you ever been so upset with a guy that you wanted to desperately do something crazy to him? You ever lie in bed at night and watch him sleep while thinking of 101 ways to kill him and not get caught? What stops you from just going “SNAPPED” on that nigga? Maybe it’s because he’s slightly crazier that YOU. lol

Now, I’m all about scandal, so rest assured I’ve been involved with guys I wish I could dump in the Ohio river, but I’m really not bout that life! Sometimes, it’s not the drastic approach that gets under a man’s skin. The smallest things can eventually drive a man crazy if you are patient! Below I’ve compiled a list of 6 Things You Can Do To Drive Your Man Insane! Haha! If these don’t get his attention, then you live with a rock and you should probably just move on. LOL Enjoy!

  1. Empty out his toiletries one at a time. Now, this is SUPER petty..but hey…that’s what this blog is for! LOL. I myself have done this and it is sure to get a guys attention. Ha! One time when I was spending multiple nights at my guys house, I began to slowly empty his toothpaste, mouthwashes and body washes little by little down the drain! One day he even asked me, “Tiff, how much toothpaste do you use on your toothbrush?” I smugly showed him the pea sized amount that “dentist recommend” and smiled. He was so confused! LOL…after a while he started mumbling about how his body wash was running out so quickly, and I innocently assured him that I used my own. This was slowly driving him NUTS!
  2. If you have a TRUE nigga, he wears white tees at some point during his day. ANYTIME you get a chance to hug him with a FULL face of make-up…DO IT! Ruin that tee! I know guys get PISSED when I mess up shirts with make-up! My reply is always, “Oops! I forgot! Sorry.” Hahahaha! I’ve put many a white tee to rest in my day! If you have a white boy or guy that doesn’t necessarily wear white tees… polo’s stain easily and any other bright colored garment! Do it! LOL. And guys can’t get mad. You were only trying to show affection!
  3. SING! Maybe it’s just the guys I’ve talked to, but in my experience, if you CANNOT sing…the LAST thing your guy wants you doing is belting out songs like your auditioning for Sunday’s Best! ESPECIALLY a good song! Go for a good classic and MURDER that joint! He’ll be looking at you like 0_o STFU! But don’t mind him…sing till your heart’s content! It will KILL him inside! Lol
  4. INVADE HIS PERSONAL SPACE! Now, I’m not of the canine persuasion, but I can almost bet having your space invaded will piss any man off! If he leaves you alone in his room…put on a pair of his socks. Lol…not just ANY socks…. Get the polo or Jordan socks! Haha. When he see’s you in them he will be PISSED! Now, whether he voices his opinion about it is a different story. You can also do other things like “get comfortable” and put on his boxers, t-shirts, or use his BRUSH! Hey…I have never seen a nigga go from man to bitch faster than finding a long ass hair in his brush! Their voice goes all high pitched and they scream, “Aye! You been using my brush?” hahahaha! Funniest shit ever. USE HIS BRUSH! Especially if you have weave that sheds…use the FUCK OUTTA HIS BRUSH!
  5. Try to gossip with him! Guys don’t give 2 fucks about our petty friend fights, co-workers, or school. They just don’t! if your guy says he does, he should be boycotting Chic-fil-A. -_- The best time to try and gossip with your guy is when he is playing video games or any other hobby that turns his mind into mush. Sit down and say, “OMG, I have to tell you what happened today!” If he’s a good guy, he’ll try to entertain you, but it’s going to KILL him that he’s not 100% focused on killing zombies, or whatever other fuckery these guys do on that God Forsaken X-box. If he loses while he’s “listening” to you…YOU’VE JUST EARNED MAJOR POINTS!
  6. This tip is one of my ALL TIME favorites. BUT…it’s not for everybody. This is reserved for couples that have a little time on the books. Lol. Every time your guy goes to take a shower…develop the urgency to take a shit! I can swear on a stack of Martin Season 1-4 DVD’s that this will drive every man crazy! NOBODY likes to be washing themselves in the SAME vicinity that someone is taking a shit. It’s just not right. Its immoral .It’s sinful! DO IT! Haha! I even take it an EXTRA step and peek into the shower curtain while I’m shitting and say, “Hey babe..” I Guarantee he will SPAZZ the hell out! This is a GREAT way to annoy your guy! It works like a charm!

Now ladies, if you try ALL of these annoying tips and your man doesn’t head butt you like Chad did Evelyn, then Honey…you need to marry that Nigguh! *Uncle Ruckus Voice* At some point, your guy should break down and flip the hell out on you. And once he’s done that, you can just smile and know that your hard work has paid off. Guys get on our DAMN nerves all day long, and I’m guess we get on their nerves too, but with THIS list, you will definitely succeed! No if, ands, or buts! Now, if you get dumped in the process of getting under your man’s skin, hell…my bad! Haha.  You can’t sue me cuz I aint got shit! So there! If you’ve done any petty things to your man to drive him crazy share! Thanks for reading! Love you all!

T. Rowe